In nearly two-two-decades of working in the world of personal development and entrepreneurship I cannot tell you how many well-meaning husbands who genuinely love their spouses and want the best for them, have advised:
“You’re smart, you don’t need a coach. You can figure this stuff out on your own…
“You are perfect. You don’t need to do that program/training/development!..
Or my personal fav:
“I know a bit about business/have a tourism degree/lead teams, so just learn from me.”
Never ever do I recommend your spouse replace a mentor.
First, they are just too close to you, and have their “stuff” going on and in many ways want you to stay the same because it works for them. (With love, but this is TRUE).
Secondly, when we allow our spouse to make decisions for us we are COMPLETELY CUT OFF from our internal knowing and power!
Even if you’ve never heard something like this from your spouse who wants to keep you safe and “save you money,” maybe you’ve told it to yourself…
…That’s how dominated we are by “martyr” thinking, that we think our value is based on how much we can do alone!
What few people understand is that a great mentor will short cut time, struggle and actually help you MAKE money in the long run.