I recently shared my biggest life lessons at age 45 and #4, not taking the trip, elicited a ton of feedback from this community.
Following this, I want to share powerful research I recently learned about REGRET!
Karl Pillemer, a gerontologist at Cornell University in the USA, has spent the last few years interviewing hundreds of older Americans in a bid to collect their worldly wisdom.
After writing his first book, 30 Lessons for Living, which collected advice from over 1,000 elders on topics like happiness, health and work, he created a follow up book in January of this year, titled 30 Lessons for Loving.
Among the questions he asked the 700+ elders who were involved in the research, were two particularly pertinent ones – what do people of their age tend to regret, and what advice would they give to younger people in order to avoid living with regrets.
Over and over, the elders revealed that their greatest life regret was not travelling enough.
One 81-year old’s story really struck an emotional chord:
“We always thought we’d do a lot of traveling when we retired, you know? But then Lynne passed away, and it was too late. I went on a couple of trips and I guess they were okay, but it’s less fun going alone. I took a bus through the Canadian Rockies, and I actually turned once to talk to her — I was sitting in a seat by myself and it was beautiful, and I wanted to tell Lynne, ‘Look at that light, the color, that light.’ But of course she wasn’t there. And I just want to share things with her when I travel, but we waited too long.”
Summarising the collective advice he received, Pillemer said:
“Travel is so rewarding that it should take precedence over other things people spend money on.”
We all have our reasons for not booking the trip of a lifetime.
r No one to go with.
r No money in the bank.
r A career or business that’s going places.
r A mortgage to pay off every month.
r Just plain fear.
All valid reasons for sure, but with one fatal problem…they’re holding us back from what we actually want to be doing with our lives…
And we could be faced with REGRET later in life not to mention no time or even poor health later in life that would prevent us from doing it “when we retire.”
Finding a reason not to do something is so much easier than finding reason to do it.
Call it the human’s natural tendency towards craving the easy life, but as a whole we tend not to do things that could potentially disrupt or upset the safety net we’ve built for ourselves.
You have to get really honest with yourself as to WHY you are holding back on your dreams, and DECIDE to create the money, time, and mindset.
I do not want to live with regret.
At age 45 my life is half over, and I can’t get back time so I am saying YES to every adventure, opportunity and investment that enriches my life.
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