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✈️Paid to travel! {How we do it}✈️

If travel is one of your passions but it’s feeling a little stifled lately, then we wrote this just for you!!

As an entrepreneur or business leader, jet-setting lifestyle may not be do-able, but you can get PAID TO TRAVEL…

Travel is one of our passions. If you’ve been following us on Instagram you know we have been in the Costa Brava just north of Barcelona these past two weeks.

And we kind of get paid to do it…

No, we aren’t the children of heiresses or oil tycoons. In fact, we are the children of parents who never traveled and saved every dime.

We created a “formula” for travelling and “getting paid” – that ensures our businesses are secure and making money while we are away.

You can do it too.

Follow our acronym “SASS” to enjoy more freedom and financial success and live your travel passion.

S = Shared Vision. This is about getting on the same page as your spouse even if your spouse does NOT share your travel bug.  You will need their support so you need to actually share what you desire.

Well, first it’s actually about owning your desire for travel and live well. If this is what you really want, then OWN IT.

I use to feel a ton of guilt about my “irresponsible” need for wander, but then I thought about all things in my life I regretted and 99% of them were things I had NOT DONE.

Secondly, know your Big WHY.

As business leaders we are so busy building and running the business that we forget about our BIG WHY. Your BIG WHY is why the heck you are doing any of this anyway.

Part of my big why is being in service and making a difference, but it is also to live a life of FREEDOM. I left my corporate career for all three, but a few years ago I was feeling like a slave to the business, and that meant burn out and resentment. That’s not good for me, my marriage or the business.  I was not taking time off and my gypsy soul felt trapped.

I talked to Ian about this, who also has a wanderer’s soul and we made the decision to ensure we could slake our wanderlust at least 4-6 weeks each year.

Few couples have a Shared Vision or a BIG WHY so life, marriage and business can become humdrum and hollow, or worse overwhelming and soul sucking.

It’s important to talk to your partner about the Shared Vision, and “own” what you really want too!

What do you really want? What do you each want? What do you want to create, experience and share together?

A = Agreements.  Agreements are clearly spelled out commitments that everyone knows about and is in “agreement” on. 

You need agreements in your relationship and business everyday but especially while travelling. These ensure you are all on the same page and they help build trust and ease.

We are huge advocates of agreements!

Ian and I have agreements at home and “on the road”.  We are clear how much time we work, explore, relax and experience while travelling. This helps us maintain balance and clarity. It also helps us support each other.

Some days I have a writing deadline and can’t go on the wine tour until the evening, or he has a sales call in the evening so we need to push a dinner reservation. We are clear on what we need to complete and agree to support each other, while not getting overwhelmed with work too.

We also have agreements with our team. Our team is clear on what the agreements are in terms of deadlines, projects, reporting and even when and how to communicate with us. They know when to send an email, when to send a text, and when to just wait until we are home. The connectivity of the modern world can be an amazing blessing, but also a major distraction and intrusion so having clear agreements on when and how your team (and clients) communicate is key.

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S = Staff.  Staff, sensational staff, are essential if you wish to have freedom in your life – at home and on the road.

Staff can mean business bliss or business hell, as well as life hell. They affect your bottom line, your cardiograms and your sex life! Consider how much time you worry about staff!

For many business leaders, employees can feel like a big-ass head ache so they limit their business and personal growth to avoid dealing with staff.

We have an associate who refuses to grow his business because he believes it will be a pain in the ass to have more staff. He refuses contracts, and thus money because he can’t fill orders. Hiring literally one more person could mean amazing wealth for him and for them.

Consider also how much you are “doing yourself” that really could be delegated to someone who might do an even better job!

Many a marriage and business has been saved by creating the stellar dream team, and learning how to totally trust, empower and build them up. Staff is one of the areas that we help our private clients create the biggest gains.

I could write forever about the power of team and staff. We have been blessed with amazing people over the last two decades, but it is not an accident.  We chose them and empowered them. We supported them and required support in turn.

Great talent is also one of the most essential aspects of business. Whether you have 1 employee or 1000, staff can make or break your life outside of the business, and in it too!

If you want to have a first-class jet-setting lifestyle, then you need to a first-class team!

S = Support. Support is what you need in place to travel and ensure all things keep on ticking in all areas of life so you can FEEL free. This is different than staff.

For example, we live in Canada and we get buckets of snow. We have a cat. We have a rural property. We have monthly tax filing requirements. So, we have a snow plow guy, a cat sitter, a housekeeper and a book keeper. All of them are clear on their roles and responsibilities. We know that our personal life, businesses and home continue to run in our absence. Phew.

GET SUPPORT!!  I can’t stress this enough.

We also have the right technology, business programs and communication platforms that support us.

Cash is always flowing into our businesses even if we are not physically at home.  This way we continue to “get paid to travel”.

We have set up our life and our business so we CAN pretty much take off on any adventure whether it is an adventure in learning as we invest heavily in self-development and business growth each year which often means we travel to do so.

Or if it means taking a last-minute adventure to enjoy food, wine, friends and culture around the world. Our recent trip to Spain was a decision made on New Year’s Eve and 6-weeks later we were in the air. It was not really planned at all, but was a spontaneous YES.

Because what is the point in being an entrepreneur if you can ENJOY this life too!!!

You can be the jet-setting king or queen you dream of…with the right support, systems and staff.

Much love and bon voyage!

Shasta + Ian

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Spoiler Alert! {What most biz people do wrong}

Imagine waking up next to the love of your life and being ecstatic to share the morning with them.

Just picture yourself coming home to a loving embrace where you’re safe, at peace, and ready to connect with your partner like never before.

Think how it would feel to have such a meaningful connection with the love of your life that no challenge or obstacle in business is daunting.

What would it do for your confidence to have the kind of passion that wakes your neighbours and fogs your windows?

That is what so many entrepreneurs crave: a relationship that refuels their desire and drive to be successful in EVERY area of life.

This could be your future. You could be in a relationship so rich and passionate where you’re supported and empowered to create BIG things in the world.

There’s a good chance your relationship isn’t where you want it to be right now. Maybe you’re facing disaster as your relationship or even marriage is heading towards disaster.

Or maybe it is “good” but it could be great.

The dream you read above doesn’t have to be a dream, and we would love to show you how.

You’re invited to dive into The Rich Relationship Breakthrough as we call it.

Discover how your action, words, and mindset in your relationship can be switched into a radical shift of easeful creation.

We’ve poured our lives into hundreds of power couples who are starving for a deeper connection with each other.

Our clients have followed our advice and achieved tremendous growth in their relationship and income.

We’ve seen clients go from the brink of divorce to a closer, mutually empowered relationship that ignites their income to double or even triple or more in a matter of months.

Clients like:

Creating a great relationship is not Mt. Everest. 

“I can’t believe that in only three months things are so different. We are connected. We’re having fun together. We’re talking about things with ease that we use to argue about and we are even planning our future including a potential business together! I am so glad I did not give up. I am so glad I overcame my resistance, trusted you and did this!”

From Divorce to Deep Love, Again


“A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It is hard to believe all the changes that have happened in just a few weeks of working with Shasta. I am so glad I did this.


I did not know my partner felt the same way, but Shasta taught me how to actually listen and be heard. Now, we both have the tools we need to be successful together. It feels amazing. I am so glad I did not give up.”


Way More Than Expected. 

“I gained insight and growth that I wasn’t expecting. Amazing opportunities are popping up in all areas of my life thanks to all I learned with Shasta. I realize the importance of connecting to myself and my partner in order to create the life I want. I let go of needing to fit a certain “role” which totally freed me. Thank you Shasta.” 


The Rich Relationship Breakthrough is where we start to make your dream come true. You can keep ‘hoping’ things get better…or you can follow the steps of hundreds of high-achieving entrepreneurs and their partners who are now experiencing mind-boggling success in EVERY area of life.

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Imbalanced Feminine? – {Man or Woman, Take the Test!}


“I’m having trouble forgiving.”

Those were the painful but honest words coming out of my mouth.

It was not easy to admit that, not only because I don’t like that side of myself, but because I am one who teaches forgiveness to men and women.

But I am humble enough to admit when I am having trouble and willing to do the “work”.

So, I really took a look at what the fuck was going on, and I discovered it was a “protection” measure that I had developed as a small girl.

I was unconsciously holding onto an aspect of the Imbalanced Feminine.

These “imbalances” can be so subtle and insidious, and we often don’t know they are at play until our results, relationships or circumstances are going off the rails!!

In a culture that is totally out of balance when it comes to the Feminine, imbalances can be easy to fall into and actually seem “normal”.

But they wreak total havoc on your life, and your relationships.

It doesn’t matter if you are man or woman, the Imbalanced Feminine shows up in both genders.  In fact, I have seen it in men as the overly “Nice Guy” or “People Pleaser” who has few boundaries.

The good news is that I had enough awareness (and support from my husband, and also my mentor) to call this out and embrace the Balanced Feminine, and just let that shit go!

There is no shame in any of this…In fact, shame is a great reason to stay stuck, in hiding and in denial.

Check out the Imbalanced and Balanced Feminine chart below.

Where are your imbalances?


Where are you feeling balanced?


What would you add?


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The Masculine is coming next week…Stay tuned.

And happy balancing!!!

Please forward to a man or woman who may be intrigued by this chart too.

Much love,


P.S.If you want help in creating “balance” in your life and business, then reach out today You can’t do it alone or you would have already.

P.P.S. Ian and I are taking a SMALL number of one-on-one clients in 2019 who wish to create amazing results, accelerate their income and make a bigger impact by truly claiming their power as women or men. Reach out to find out of that is for you at


Behave Girl and for God’s Sakes No Yoga Pants! – Finding Humor in the Ridiculous

The following is an edited excerpt from the Bad Girls Do It Better celebratory seminar held on February 17 with Shasta Townsend at Balanced Life Yoga in Ontario, Canada and broadcast world-wide via Live Stream through internationally renown health and wellness site: Vivid Life.    Watch this historic event… 

Though women have faced misogyny, patriarchy and terror for millennium, we are now in a new world age where these things will have no home – soon.

The old world of separation, manipulation and terror is dying though the last gasp of this old world is still being heard. There is work to do to ensure the new world takes firm roots.

The time to find our own wholeness, true power and even our compassion is needed.

It requires that we heal the old wounds that we have acquired from our families, our society and on our own journey.

It requires that we stand together in an accepting and loving place.

It requires that we choose to participate and purchase media, movies and books that portray women as powerful, beautiful, alive beings and not shades of sexual objects to be victimized and beaten down.

It requires that we take inspired action and not react from rage and pain.

It requires that we find the comical in what is ridiculous.

Speaking of the ridiculous…

Do you know there is a Montana Lawmaker who tabled a bill last week that would make wearing Yoga pants illegal?

He stated that he found Yoga pants indecent and that people should be arrested for wearing “provocative” clothing.


At one level I find this quite comical and had a notion to send him hundreds of pictures of my ass in Yoga pants to show him just what he is missing.

At another level this clearly speaks to the ongoing and yet subtle shame and blame that is still leveled at women – our bodies, our beauty and our sexuality.

What is republican Representative David Moore so afraid of?

What is the message he is really sending to women? And to men?

The message is that we are inappropriate, indecent and our sexuality, beauty and body are the cause of much of the bad behavior and the break down of conservative society today.

The message to women is cover up, shut up and be small. Don’t you dare be attractive, beautiful or sexual. We can’t handle it!

The message to men is “control your woman” lest she drive another man wild. Interesting that the message is NOT “control yourself.”

And I say, “No thank you.” I am tired of being small, polite, appropriate and “decent” so that you can feel comfortable Mr. Moore. I am tired of feeling afraid of men and what they are thinking or may or may not do. I am tired of feeling disconnected from my body and all the self-loathing that creates cancer. I am of external messages dictating my self worth.

I will decide what is meaningful, and what I want to wear!

Why don’t we instead deal with what it is that is making us uncomfortable?

Why don’t we heal our disconnection from the body, from each other and from sexuality it self.

That’s my plan.

That’s what we are doing when we gather together in empowered action.

That is what we are doing when we do not allow shame and blame to rule our lives or our minds.

That is what we are doing when we do not allow the small, insidious comments to leave a mark on our sense of self or create judgment about how a woman should dress, act or behave.

That is what we are doing when we laugh at the ludicrous while we stand in our value as women – and men, regardless of what we are wearing.

Now, I have some photos to take…


Bad Girls Do It Better was a celebratory seminar, conversation starter and gathering of women around the world ready to claim their birthright of pleasure, joy, and power. It was hosted by Shasta Townsend on February 17, 2015 to a live audience and broadcast via live stream as a live party and informative workshop AND participants had the chance to ask their own questions confidentially about the things women rarely, if ever, get a chance to talk about! The evening included a lively examination of the damaging, outdated, and darn-right comical beliefs about women’s bodies, behavior and sexuality – and what we can do with them! Watch the free video of this event now.

Shasta Townsend loves to see women of all ages recognize, access, and utilize the greatness within them, and to be a small part of it. She is skilled at cracking the lockbox of limitation and revealing one’s inner gifts. She is a feisty champion of creating an unlimited life where ease, joy, and freedom reign, regardless of the circumstances. Shasta’s expertise in these matters does not come from a few letters behind her name, but from her own investigation, learning, and journey. Thanks to this, her offerings are not regurgitated from another’s textbook, but from her own personal evolution and inner guidance. Shasta shares her passion for living well as a Featured Columnist at Elephant Journal, The Good Men Project, Rebelle Society and Vivid Life. Shasta leads retreats, workshops and talks around the world. She lives in Canada with her husband, cat and creative impulse. Her debut book, Happy, Sexy, Shameless – What Our Mother’s Didn’t Know About the Birds and the Bees is an international best seller. Connect with Shasta at, on Facebook or on Twitter @shastaherself.