my secret bank account [trigger warning]

At one point in my marriage I had a secret bank account with over $40,000 in it.

My husband, Ian, had no idea.

I believed I always needed an “escape plan”.

And, money was a contentious issue in our marriage, combined with the fact that neither Ian or I had any idea how to talk about it without a massive blow out.

I am NOT saying that a girl should not be financially secure, in fact I am a huge advocate for every single woman having access to her own money, but for me, that secret bank account was – well a secret – that was coming out of fear, mistrust and anxiety.

And living with secrets really SUCKS.

I did come clean and tell Ian about that bank account and in fact we used it as a down payment on a house…a way better investment…

but it showed me where I had some major fear, shame and mistrust when it came to money, men and marriage, and that I needed to learn how to talk about money.

Healing that and learning those skills was one of THE MOST POWERFUL things I have done for myself and my marriage.

Ian and I now talk about money with ease and grace, and more importantly there are no secrets or lies.

We are on the same page which feels amazing.

Money is a charged topic in our world and in marriage, and most of us never learned how to make peace with money and certainly never learned how to talk about it.

Money is the #1 cause of divorce, and overall stress.

This has to change, and I believe it’s essential that we don’t pass on these horrible habits to our kids.

We have to be the one to say this shit stops here!

You can…

This is a personal invite to join myself, and Ian on an 8-week journey in the How to Talk About Money, Sex and the Kids Without a Fight Program.

 

ü Imagine NOT having any shame, secrets, awkwardness or        resentment when it comes to money…in your marriage or any area of your life.

ü Imagine feeling confident, clear about money (sex, the kids and other “charged”) topic without feeling awkward or having secrets.

ü Imagine knowing how to ask for what you want, and actually get it – without manipulation, massive meltdowns or making yourself small!

We Know This Works

We want as many people taking this training because we know it works, and it literally changed everything for us.

We now have a rock-solid marriage, sensational sex life and we became self-made millionaires – because we were ON THE SAME PAGE and there are no more secrets.

We have a shared vision, plan and are actually living our dreams together, without secrets.

 

We have Early Bird pricing on right now – save $1,000!!!!!!! (only until July 31, 2019)

 

This is NOT A COUPLES COURSE

It’s a get what you want course…and learn the compassionate skills to do so.

Because YOU, can be the one who takes the leadership and love in your marriage and any relationship!

Join us NOW.

We begin August 1, 2019…and in 8 weeks your money life could be drastically improved…

Imagine this autumn being a time of true abundance, ease and joy!!

We look forward to working with you soon.

Much love,

Shasta + Ian

P.S.  Check out all the details for How to Talk About Money, Sex and the Kids Without a Fight NOW 

I Turned 45! – My 5 Biggest Life Lessons {what I’d tell 20-year-old me}

I turned 45 this week!

At what is probably the mid-way point through my life, I share the 5 BIG Life Lessons the 45-year-old me would have told my 20-year-old self.

No same-old, same-old platitudes. No clichés. No airy-fairy talk.

My 5 Biggest Life Lessons – A Note to My 20-Year-Old Self:

#5. Snowshoe Secrets – How to Guarantee Success, Fast

Pay attention to snowshoe lessons, Shasta…When snowshoeing, following in the tracks of someone ahead of you makes things so much easier. The same is true in life.

Following a mentor – someone who as does the thing you wish to do and is ahead of you on the trail – is the fastest way to shorten time, effort and struggle, and ensure success.

Always seek out, engage and hire mentors!

Now at 45, I see that having a great mentor has meant quantum leaps in my career, my income, my business and my marriage. In fact, they’ve helped me create bigger success than I could have imagined at 20.

And, honestly, I am not that patient so having a mentor has meant less time wasted on “trial and error” or “figuring it out myself”.  YAY!!

#4. Take the Bloody Trip! – It’s the Things You DON’T Do That You Will Regret

I would tell my 20-year-old self that it’s the things SHE DID NOT DO that she will REGRET THE MOST, including:

  • I regret NOT taking the trip Mardi Gras in New Orleans with my friends when I was 2o. I still have not been!
  • I regret NOT going the White House and meeting President Clinton that I turned down and worked instead. WTF was I thinking?
  • I regret not telling my husband Ian, that I loved him sooner. I tell him every day now!

It’s the things I did NOT do that I regret the most, and that’s not happening again.  Now, if I have a chance to travel, meet someone famous, have an adventure or tell someone I love them, I JUMP on that! 

I am also so grateful to create amazing experiences and transformational retreats with my husband Ian, that literally hundreds of people have joined us on over the years.    We have 4 rooms for Tuscany, just saying! www.shastatownsend.com/italy

#3. Speak Up! – Have the Courage to Ask but Don’t Be A Jerk About It

The courage to ask…“Women don’t ask, aren’t seen and don’t have ambition/desire/passion!”,  these were false beliefs that my 20-year-old battled with internally.

I often made myself wrong for wanting more, speaking up, being assertive, passionate, clear and demanding.

Or, I would dodge “awkward” conversations to avoid rocking the boat, and then things would blow up – in my business, marriage, bank account and self.

One the most important things I have learned is have the COURAGE to ask, and the skills to do it well, including:

  • How to get clear on what I desire.
  • How to “own” that desire.
  • How to ask for it in a powerful way – not an entitled, apologetic or confusing way. In other words, how to NOT be a jerk.
  • Learning how to RECEIVE.
  • Learning how to collaborate and make it win-win in every relationship and situation.

#2. You are Loved – No Need to PROVE IT!

My 20-year-old-self thought she had to constantly prove herself.

I was the classic over-achiever – over doing, over delivering, and over YES’ing my way through life so that people would see how “good” I was.

I would tell my 20-year-old self that she was SO LOVED, and lovable, and that she did not need to “get that” from others or prove it.   Sometimes I just visualize myself at 20 and give me a big hug.

I also accepted relationships that were toxic and not loving. Now, I am such a huge proponent of creating and maintaining amazing relationships. I learned how to be a BETTER person to myself, and everyone, and that’s a huge lesson I am so grateful for.

Love was always present in my life, but my 45-year-old self is much more open to receiving it and flowing it!

 #1. It’s Work AS Play

Growing up in a family that struggled with everything, and living in a culture where we are taught to “work hard” to prove our worthiness, I have been detoxing “the life is hard” paradigm for 20+ years.

I have invested in learning the skills of instant manifestation, personal responsibility, quantum creation and universal laws – which work 100% of the time – but there are times I am still surprised how good, fast and FUN things can be. 

I would tell my 20-year old self just how powerful she is AND how Life is about Cit and Ananda – the Truth and the Sweetness – and not just hard work and struggle.

Yes, you are here to grow, learn and create but it is also meant to be fun, delicious and easeful. And, you get to DECIDE what life FEELS like by your internal choices about what is happening.

I look forward to writing a letter to my 45-year-old self, 25 years from now, and plan to take more risks, more trips, make love more often, and have more fun while creating, serving and becoming at an even bigger scale. Now for cake!!

What would you tell your 20-year-old self???

Much love,

Shasta

P.S. My focus for the next couple weeks is going to be all about creating amazing relationships so watch for emails and offerings from me on a new course and a special offer that’s all about getting what you want – in love, marriage, your career/business and creating an amazing life now and for the next 4o years!!

your ticket to $5k-$50K months!

Imagine never struggling with money again!!!

  • It’s not magical thinking or “hoping” things will just work out that ensures you have a viable and lucrative business….
  • It’s not burying your head in the sand and wondering when thefairies of the Universe will bring you a pot of gold…
  • It’s also NOT telling yourself that you are ok with mediocre,struggle or “just getting by!”
✔️You were born to be a success…but you have to learn themindsets, tools and skillsets to ensure continued success as afemale entrepreneur…
✔️You have to get clear on who you serve, how you serve them, how to reach them and how to “close” them.
✔️In other words, you have to be seen, be in service, know how to market and know how to sell

 

Feel impossible or overwhelming?

I can help you!!

I am NOT one of those business coaches who has no idea how to actually be in business or make money…

I don’t own a private jet but I do own successful businesses that make money and impact every single month!

I have owned successful businesses for two decades, made over 8-figures, and have successful cash flow every single month…

I walk the talk and I love helping other female entrepreneurs do the same.

I am not the cheapest coach out there…namely, because I get results formy clients worth 10-100x their investment.

I also VALUE myself, and will show you how to value (and price) yourself and services too!

I won’t bullshit you and or waste your time or money. I want clients who want to get results, take action, make an impact and make more money to live a great life…

If that’s you then let’s chat about creating your custom VIP Day Experience.

Please don’t book a call looking for free advice or to tire kick…I really don’t have time…If you are ready to rock out, then please connect with me!

Imagine if you could spend an entire day…

…getting super clear on what you want, how to get and how to BE that person who creates it in lightening time… Is it creating 6-figures, 7-figures? Or knowing what your next step will be…without sacrifice?

…ditching your shame, guilt, fear (aka bullshit) and letting go of your blocks to success…both in the bedroom and in business…

And spending that day really getting sh*t done ON your business, on your relationship and on yourself from a brand new place of creation like never before.

What would you cover?

What would be the most powerful thing you would work on?
✔️ Big picture planning?
✔️ Support and systems so you can have a life?
✔️ Improving your sales skills so you CLOSE more?
✔️ Creating a 6-figure or 7-figure income plan NOW?
✔️ Mindset and blocks?
✔️ Being seen and owning the shit out of who you are?
✔️ Creating better work/life balance? 
✔️ Social Media Marketing?
✔️ Adding more profit to your bottom line
✔️ Seeing the “unseen” opportunities
✔️ Letting go of fear, impostor syndrome and self-doubt?

All of this!!

Right now, you have the power to change your future…

To be seen as a “go to” authority…And to get the kind of income and impact you want.
You can’t do this on your own or you would have already!

Click here to chat about designing EXACTLY what you would want in your VIP day.

PS: I’m opening up a ULTIMATE VIP DAY INTENSIVES.  You get to call the shots on what you want to cover.  This is for ready to get results people in each of these areas…Toronto area, the Puerto Vallarta area in Mexico, Rome and Venice in Italy, and the Charlotte area in North Carolina.


Read Success Stories to Get Inspired! 


Come See Me LIVE at One Woman!


It’s the TED Talk for women who want to get inspired by other women’s stories. 

I am so honoured and thrilled to be a chosen speaker. I would love for you to be there too! 

Your Upcoming VIP Day – summer sizzle or struggle?

As we get set for summer, do you allow your business to slow down and struggle or do you use it as a time to really sizzle?

There is a common belief that summer is slow, and lots of women use this as an excuse to kick back and indulge self-doubt.

DON’T!!!!

You can relax of course, but you can create a sizzling summer, and WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BREAK FROM YOUR BUSINESS?

If you need a break, then something is set up incorrectly…FIX THAT ASAP.

We are nearly halfway through 2019…

If you are taking stock and have to the realization that you have some “work” to do to meet your 2019 goals then this is a special and PERFECT invitation for you…for the summer…and every day in your business and life. 

Imagine if you could spend an entire day…

…getting super clear on what you want, how to get and how to BE that person who creates it in lightening time… Is it creating 6-figures, 7-figures? Or knowing what your next step will be…without sacrifice? 

…ditching your shame, guilt, fear (aka bullshit) and letting go of your blocks to success…both in the bedroom and in business…

…And spending that day really getting sh*t done ON your business, on your relationship and on yourself from a brand new place of creation like never before.

What would you cover?

What would be the most powerful thing you would work on?
✔️ Big picture planning?
✔️ Support and systems so you can have a life?
✔️ Improving your sales skills so you CLOSE more?
✔️ Creating a 6-figure or 7-figure income plan NOW?
✔️ Mindset and blocks?
✔️ Being seen and owning the shit out of who you are?
✔️ Creating better work/life balance? 
✔️ Social Media Marketing?
✔️ Adding more profit to your bottom line
✔️ Seeing the “unseen” opportunities
✔️ Letting go of fear, impostor syndrome and self-doubt?

All of this!! 

Outside of speaking, writing and teaching live I looooove working 
up close and personal with women that are freaking ready to shift gears
and blow the lid off what they think is possible.

There's something about being able sit down face-to-face and talk about the in's and out's that are exclusive to your biz and relationship.

Skip past the surface stuff and dive into the things that 
REALLY matter, and will make the biggest shift. 

It's where the generic strategies get left behind and a custom plan to skyrocket your biz and love life comes into play.
No fluff…
No one size fits all…
No unnecessary cogs in the wheel…

So here's the fun thing about all of the above.

I’m opening up a few ULTIMATE VIP DAY INTENSIVES with me, and
You get to call the shots on what you want to cover.

We have opened up dates in the Toronto area, the Puerto Vallarta area in Mexico, Rome and Venice in Italy, The UK, and the Charlotte area in North Carolina. 

Click here to chat about designing EXACTLY what you would want in your VIP day.

PS: I’m opening up a ULTIMATE VIP DAY INTENSIVES.  You get to call the shots on what you want to cover.  This is for ready to get results people in each of these areas…Toronto area, the Puerto Vallarta area in Mexico, Rome and Venice in Italy, and the Charlotte area in North Carolina.


Read Success Stories to Get Inspired! 


Come See Me LIVE at One Woman!


It’s the TED Talk for women who want to get inspired by other women’s stories. 

I am so honoured and thrilled to be a chosen speaker. I would love for you to be there too! 

Love your business, hate selling? (the secret)

You love your business.

But you kind of hate selling???

Here’s the problem: without selling, you don’t have a business.

When you learn how to sell well, you serve more people AND you increase your own earning potential. I know because I did this!

Last year, I tripled my income results and passed into a 7-figure mark in my business. I also served way more people because I learned how to help THEM get what they need and wanted.

That’s really what “selling” is all about – being in service in a bigger way!

That’s why I want you to learn a way of selling that feels great – for you AND for your customer.

What if you could sell with your heart and soul – instead of feeling inauthentic and pushy?

What if you could reach more people with your products and services – WHILE creating the freedom and income you’re longing for?

What if you could not only develop and deepen your sales skills – but also come to LOVE selling?

That’s exactly what you’ll learn in the free virtual event I’m part of, The Art of Selling to a Woman: How to Connect, Engage and Sell to the Female Consumer

Fellow entrepreneur Tanya Pluckrose has brought together 21 sales experts (including me!) to teach you a way of selling that’s natural, authentic, and connected. It starts on May 20, but you should reserve your spot now!

I actually talk about what female sexuality and selling have in common!

During this free, virtual event you’ll learn how to:

  • Approach selling in a unique and refreshing way (sales isn’t what you think!)
  • Forget the sale and create value (because value trumps price every time)

  • Leverage the #1 decision-making factor (it isn’t logic)

  • Create better sales results and win more business no matter your industry (get ready to skyrocket)

If you’re ready to love all parts of your business, including sales…

If you’re ready to connect with and sell to your ideal client, ditching awkward, uncomfortable pitches…

If you’re ready to learn how to sell with integrity…

This show is for you. Get access here: https://www.tanyapluckrose.com/a/14718/QfRyouzn 

This show is free to you – but don't discount its value because it's free! There's a veritable gold mine of information here. The speaker list includes multiple bestselling authors, world-renowned sales leaders, and changemakers and visionaries in the game of selling.

Get access here: I WANT THAT!