Luuuuucky!

“Luuuuuucky!”

Those were the words of our new house sitter as she heard we needed her to take care of our house and cat while we headed to Italy for two weeks to lead a transformational retreat in Tuscany, and do a bit of travelling ourselves.

I always bristle when people say “Lucky!”

I am not a leprechaun nor have I ever found one. Though I did find a 4-leaf clover on my birthday this year…still no leprechaun jumped out of the cake.

Assigning things to “luck” is a sure-fire way to AVOID taking responsibility (and a great way to feel victimized).

“Lucky” often means some of us have hit the cosmic jackpot (that bitch!) and some of us are stuck in same-old-same-old (poor me!).

That’s not the way it works.

You are creating 100% of your results – all the time. You and only you are responsible for that – no leprechauns are coming to help you!!

Sure, there can be supporters and detractors. Good timing and shitty weather, but ultimately you get to decide how you live your life, share your work and whether you get on a plane to Italy.

I am not lucky. I am not special. I am actually a little bit introverted, love a good book, and have a queasy stomach that makes travelling a bitch sometimes, but I MAKE SHIT HAPPEN thanks to my “lucky formula”.

My “Lucky” Formula

  • I have a clear vision for what I want my life to look like.
  • I have clear sense of PURPOSE and SERVICE.
  • I practice success mindsets every day to stay in alignment with Spirit.
  • I take aligned action and if I don’t know something, I hire help.

That’s NOT luck…not really…but if you do this, people will wonder WTF you are doing and why you are so “lucky”.

What do you want to “make happen” for the remainder of 2019? Hit reply and let me know. I would love to hear.

Will this be your lucky year or just more of the same-old-same-old?

Watch my From Victim to Creator – 2 Essentials that Anyone Can Do Now 👍 

It’s from my retreat teaching in Tuscany – Watch now. (link to https://www.facebook.com/shasta.townsend.1

I am blessed for sure, but I am not lucky.

I have created everything in my life – the good and the bad – as have you.

Here’s the thing I DID do that I feel lucky about – I hired great mentors and teachers.

Do you need a great mentor to help you actually create what you want?

My husband, Ian and I are leading a 3-month virtual mastermind from mid-October to end of December 2019.

We believe that powerful transformation and success is possible for you, too.

Whether it is:

  • becoming a go-to in your industry,
  • transforming countless lives through your work,
  • generously providing for your family
  • or being able to work anywhere in the world…

You can create your dream business and life…and make a REAL impact and income…let us show you how…

Book a time to connect with me now and have a no-pressure chat about what “luck” you want to create and IF this mastermind is right for you:  link to https://go.oncehub.com/shastatownsenddiscovery

I am off to have a “lucky” glass of wine with amazing people.

Grateful every darn day!

Salute!

Shasta

P.S. The Magnetic Success – Marketing, Money + Mindset (3-Month Fast Starter) Mastermind starts the week of October 10, 2019. Enrollment ends on October 8, 2019 at 8 pm EST.

Even if you feel overwhelmed by it all, and have no idea where to start…

Or if you feel uncertain if you have something unique to offer or feel uncertain about “putting yourself” out there…

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Book a time to connect with me now and have a no-pressure chat about what “luck” you want to create and IF this mastermind is right for you… link to https://go.oncehub.com/shastatownsenddiscovery

PER FAVORE:  DO NOT BOOK IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO SHOW UP. I AM BUSY, AND DON’T HAVE TIME FOR NO SHOWS Y’ALL.

AND THAT IS 100% NOT COOL!!!!!! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Super Grover, dick pics + bad behavior have in common!

I am not sure what mojo I had going on, but in one day I received no less than four penis pics on social media. 

This was a new experience for me.

I have received unwanted friend requests, marriage proposals and male advances through social media (and in person) but no eggplant images.

I have to say it was a SHOCK. 

A friend of mine says a flaccid penis looks a little like the Sesame Street character Grover, perhaps the least sexy Sesame Street character!

Apparently, I am not alone in receiving dick pics.

I joked on my personal Facebook page that I had “made it” as I was now receiving unsolicited creep show images and a LOT of women commented that they had been on the receiving end of such bad behavior too.

The thing about unwanted attention and bad behavior is disturbing and subtle way it can erode a woman’s feeling of safety, sexuality and even autonomy.

I have to be honest that I felt “violated”, targeted and angry…Not great aphrodisiacs.

I felt a little triggered too.

“WTF guys?  Are you totally fucking mental?”

I have worked hard to claim my sexuality and create a kick ass sex life where I feel both autonomous and adored and where I can be taken fully by a man I love and trust.

I could feel the old fear of “danger” arise that day. I am not sure if these pics are intended to intimidate, but I felt a moment of that.

“Did I somehow invite this?

“Are my photos too sexy, provocative?

“Am I giving off a vibe that I want this?…ie. coming across as a “whore”?

Women have been blamed for bad male behavior for centuries.

We tend to internalize that. We also tend to RAGE the fuck over it (for good reason), but I don’t want to do either.

Like 99% of all women I know, I have experienced sexual abuse and trauma, but I don’t want to live in that trauma.

I love men.

I love sex.

I love to be a radiant woman out in the world…

So, I took a deep breath. Looked at my husband, and said “They really don’t compare to you.”

I laughed, then I moved the FUCK ON!

I also took a moment to FEEL my own power as a woman –sexual, sensual, autonomous and totally alive.  No soft penis can take that away.

I REFUSE to hide, shrink or feel victimized from a couple of flaccid cocks on Instagram.

There is always going to be ridiculous behavior, and weirdos who have zero social skills, and every now and then I am going to meet up with them…but it has NOTHING to do with me.

So, if you are woman who somehow felt ashamed, shrunken or even mad as fuck at the RIDICULOUSNESS we still face, you are not alone.

But, I also invite you to consider how many gorgeous, powerful, and GREAT men are in your life.

I believe there is a revolution happening between men and women, and I want to be at the forefront of that which means taking responsibility for my reactions and my healing. Want to join me?

And, here’s to great men who know when to keep it in their pants!

Much love,

Shasta Townsend

Best-selling author, sensualist and unapologetic lover of leopard print

www.shastatownsend.com

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Not travelling could be the biggest regret of your life [Here’s why]

I recently shared my biggest life lessons at age 45 and #4, not taking the trip, elicited a ton of feedback from this community.

Following this, I want to share powerful research I recently learned about REGRET!

Karl Pillemer, a gerontologist at Cornell University in the USA, has spent the last few years interviewing hundreds of older Americans in a bid to collect their worldly wisdom.

After writing his first book, 30 Lessons for Living, which collected advice from over 1,000 elders on topics like happiness, health and work, he created a follow up book in January of this year, titled 30 Lessons for Loving.

Among the questions he asked the 700+ elders who were involved in the research, were two particularly pertinent ones – what do people of their age tend to regret, and what advice would they give to younger people in order to avoid living with regrets.

Over and over, the elders revealed that their greatest life regret was not travelling enough.

One 81-year old’s story really struck an emotional chord:

“We always thought we’d do a lot of traveling when we retired, you know? But then Lynne passed away, and it was too late. I went on a couple of trips and I guess they were okay, but it’s less fun going alone. I took a bus through the Canadian Rockies, and I actually turned once to talk to her — I was sitting in a seat by myself and it was beautiful, and I wanted to tell Lynne, ‘Look at that light, the color, that light.’ But of course she wasn’t there. And I just want to share things with her when I travel, but we waited too long.”

Summarising the collective advice he received, Pillemer said: 

“Travel is so rewarding that it should take precedence over other things people spend money on.”

We all have our reasons for not booking the trip of a lifetime.

r No one to go with.

r No money in the bank.

r A career or business that’s going places.

r A mortgage to pay off every month.

r Just plain fear.

All valid reasons for sure, but with one fatal problem…they’re holding us back from what we actually want to be doing with our lives…

And we could be faced with REGRET later in life not to mention no time or even poor health later in life that would prevent us from doing it “when we retire.”

Finding a reason not to do something is so much easier than finding reason to do it.

Call it the human’s natural tendency towards craving the easy life, but as a whole we tend not to do things that could potentially disrupt or upset the safety net we’ve built for ourselves.

You have to get really honest with yourself as to WHY you are holding back on your dreams, and DECIDE to create the money, time, and mindset.

I do not want to live with regret.

At age 45 my life is half over, and I can’t get back time so I am saying YES to every adventure, opportunity and investment that enriches my life.

Are you?

Travel With Us

If you have been waiting and watching our Italy Adventure, NOW IS THE TIME.  Get the details


 

 

We have 3 rooms left, and doors close in 5 days!!!!

There is STILL TIME, but you gotta say YES NOW.

We will honour the early bird rate for those in this community…but only for the next few days (August 8 doors close!)

We have been leading international retreats, transformational travel and FUN for TWO decades so you are in good hands.

<<< here we are in India with a BIG group from 2018.

As well, we are avid and experienced travelers and teachers and we offer our welcoming spirit to everyone on our retreats.

You are a part of our tribe and family and we ensure you are well taken care of.

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Watch what people have to say about travel with Ian and myself. WATCH NOW

Join us in Italy – September 8-14, 2019

And hey, if this is not ringing your bell, you can:

1.   Hit REPLY and let us know WHERE you do want to travel to with us.

2.   Take the trip that IS resonating with you.

To a life of NO regrets!!!

Much love,

Shasta

www.shastatownsend.com

www.theincomeandintimacyequation.com

my secret bank account [trigger warning]

At one point in my marriage I had a secret bank account with over $40,000 in it.

My husband, Ian, had no idea.

I believed I always needed an “escape plan”.

And, money was a contentious issue in our marriage, combined with the fact that neither Ian or I had any idea how to talk about it without a massive blow out.

I am NOT saying that a girl should not be financially secure, in fact I am a huge advocate for every single woman having access to her own money, but for me, that secret bank account was – well a secret – that was coming out of fear, mistrust and anxiety.

And living with secrets really SUCKS.

I did come clean and tell Ian about that bank account and in fact we used it as a down payment on a house…a way better investment…

but it showed me where I had some major fear, shame and mistrust when it came to money, men and marriage, and that I needed to learn how to talk about money.

Healing that and learning those skills was one of THE MOST POWERFUL things I have done for myself and my marriage.

Ian and I now talk about money with ease and grace, and more importantly there are no secrets or lies.

We are on the same page which feels amazing.

Money is a charged topic in our world and in marriage, and most of us never learned how to make peace with money and certainly never learned how to talk about it.

Money is the #1 cause of divorce, and overall stress.

This has to change, and I believe it’s essential that we don’t pass on these horrible habits to our kids.

We have to be the one to say this shit stops here!

You can…

This is a personal invite to join myself, and Ian on an 8-week journey in the How to Talk About Money, Sex and the Kids Without a Fight Program.

 

ü Imagine NOT having any shame, secrets, awkwardness or        resentment when it comes to money…in your marriage or any area of your life.

ü Imagine feeling confident, clear about money (sex, the kids and other “charged”) topic without feeling awkward or having secrets.

ü Imagine knowing how to ask for what you want, and actually get it – without manipulation, massive meltdowns or making yourself small!

We Know This Works

We want as many people taking this training because we know it works, and it literally changed everything for us.

We now have a rock-solid marriage, sensational sex life and we became self-made millionaires – because we were ON THE SAME PAGE and there are no more secrets.

We have a shared vision, plan and are actually living our dreams together, without secrets.

 

We have Early Bird pricing on right now – save $1,000!!!!!!! (only until July 31, 2019)

 

This is NOT A COUPLES COURSE

It’s a get what you want course…and learn the compassionate skills to do so.

Because YOU, can be the one who takes the leadership and love in your marriage and any relationship!

Join us NOW.

We begin August 1, 2019…and in 8 weeks your money life could be drastically improved…

Imagine this autumn being a time of true abundance, ease and joy!!

We look forward to working with you soon.

Much love,

Shasta + Ian

P.S.  Check out all the details for How to Talk About Money, Sex and the Kids Without a Fight NOW 

I Turned 45! – My 5 Biggest Life Lessons {what I’d tell 20-year-old me}

I turned 45 this week!

At what is probably the mid-way point through my life, I share the 5 BIG Life Lessons the 45-year-old me would have told my 20-year-old self.

No same-old, same-old platitudes. No clichés. No airy-fairy talk.

My 5 Biggest Life Lessons – A Note to My 20-Year-Old Self:

#5. Snowshoe Secrets – How to Guarantee Success, Fast

Pay attention to snowshoe lessons, Shasta…When snowshoeing, following in the tracks of someone ahead of you makes things so much easier. The same is true in life.

Following a mentor – someone who as does the thing you wish to do and is ahead of you on the trail – is the fastest way to shorten time, effort and struggle, and ensure success.

Always seek out, engage and hire mentors!

Now at 45, I see that having a great mentor has meant quantum leaps in my career, my income, my business and my marriage. In fact, they’ve helped me create bigger success than I could have imagined at 20.

And, honestly, I am not that patient so having a mentor has meant less time wasted on “trial and error” or “figuring it out myself”.  YAY!!

#4. Take the Bloody Trip! – It’s the Things You DON’T Do That You Will Regret

I would tell my 20-year-old self that it’s the things SHE DID NOT DO that she will REGRET THE MOST, including:

  • I regret NOT taking the trip Mardi Gras in New Orleans with my friends when I was 2o. I still have not been!
  • I regret NOT going the White House and meeting President Clinton that I turned down and worked instead. WTF was I thinking?
  • I regret not telling my husband Ian, that I loved him sooner. I tell him every day now!

It’s the things I did NOT do that I regret the most, and that’s not happening again.  Now, if I have a chance to travel, meet someone famous, have an adventure or tell someone I love them, I JUMP on that! 

I am also so grateful to create amazing experiences and transformational retreats with my husband Ian, that literally hundreds of people have joined us on over the years.    We have 4 rooms for Tuscany, just saying! www.shastatownsend.com/italy

#3. Speak Up! – Have the Courage to Ask but Don’t Be A Jerk About It

The courage to ask…“Women don’t ask, aren’t seen and don’t have ambition/desire/passion!”,  these were false beliefs that my 20-year-old battled with internally.

I often made myself wrong for wanting more, speaking up, being assertive, passionate, clear and demanding.

Or, I would dodge “awkward” conversations to avoid rocking the boat, and then things would blow up – in my business, marriage, bank account and self.

One the most important things I have learned is have the COURAGE to ask, and the skills to do it well, including:

  • How to get clear on what I desire.
  • How to “own” that desire.
  • How to ask for it in a powerful way – not an entitled, apologetic or confusing way. In other words, how to NOT be a jerk.
  • Learning how to RECEIVE.
  • Learning how to collaborate and make it win-win in every relationship and situation.

#2. You are Loved – No Need to PROVE IT!

My 20-year-old-self thought she had to constantly prove herself.

I was the classic over-achiever – over doing, over delivering, and over YES’ing my way through life so that people would see how “good” I was.

I would tell my 20-year-old self that she was SO LOVED, and lovable, and that she did not need to “get that” from others or prove it.   Sometimes I just visualize myself at 20 and give me a big hug.

I also accepted relationships that were toxic and not loving. Now, I am such a huge proponent of creating and maintaining amazing relationships. I learned how to be a BETTER person to myself, and everyone, and that’s a huge lesson I am so grateful for.

Love was always present in my life, but my 45-year-old self is much more open to receiving it and flowing it!

 #1. It’s Work AS Play

Growing up in a family that struggled with everything, and living in a culture where we are taught to “work hard” to prove our worthiness, I have been detoxing “the life is hard” paradigm for 20+ years.

I have invested in learning the skills of instant manifestation, personal responsibility, quantum creation and universal laws – which work 100% of the time – but there are times I am still surprised how good, fast and FUN things can be. 

I would tell my 20-year old self just how powerful she is AND how Life is about Cit and Ananda – the Truth and the Sweetness – and not just hard work and struggle.

Yes, you are here to grow, learn and create but it is also meant to be fun, delicious and easeful. And, you get to DECIDE what life FEELS like by your internal choices about what is happening.

I look forward to writing a letter to my 45-year-old self, 25 years from now, and plan to take more risks, more trips, make love more often, and have more fun while creating, serving and becoming at an even bigger scale. Now for cake!!

What would you tell your 20-year-old self???

Much love,

Shasta

P.S. My focus for the next couple weeks is going to be all about creating amazing relationships so watch for emails and offerings from me on a new course and a special offer that’s all about getting what you want – in love, marriage, your career/business and creating an amazing life now and for the next 4o years!!