Are you doing this creepy thing on FB? Marketing 101 Advice

I was creeped out! 


It was too much too soon.


The “here’s why I am so amazing and how I can help you so work with me NOW message that I’ve received not once but about 10x in the last 2 months through Facebook messenger.


If we’ve just become friends on Facebook, do not pitch me your services through direct message…not in the first 10-minutes and not in the first 10 hours.


It’s kinda creepy when I see your name pop up and I’ve just accepted your friend request. 


I don’t accept every friend request that comes my way. I do try to be discerning but if we’ve just met please don’t try to hump me.


Would you jump into bed with someone you just met in the produce aisle? 


Maybe, but if you’re asking me to hop into bed with you, unless you’re Javier Bardum, that’s not going to happen. 


I’m not saying don’t friend me.


I’m not saying don’t use Messenger to connect with people or even invite them to work with you.


I hate to sound critical since I do love a go-getter and those who ask for the sale, but there is a sophisticated way to do this. 


I’m just saying don’t be creepy. 


How to Use DMs Effectively:


  • Ensure you let “friends” warm to you. Don’t go in too fast or too hard. Don’t love bomb people (it feels inauthentic) and conversely don’t tell people you can “save” them (it’s patronizing and narcissistic).


  • Ensure you’re using it as a relationship tool. That is, invite people to have a conversation and not just hard sell. 


  • Ensure you’re talking about what’s in it for me and not just how amazing you might be.


  • Ensure you know who you’re talking to AKA do a little research. Please don’t pitch me parenting programs. I don’t have kids. Please don’t pitch me lesbian cruises. I’m in a monogamous relationship with a man and I hate boats. Please don’t pitch me life coaching when you haven’t figure out your own life.



I don’t usually write about effective marketing or sales techniques, but I’ve had so many ineffective and creepy DMs in the last 6 months I had to speak up. 


And I’ve also built 7-figure businesses through authentic relationship building and effective marketing so I hope to start sharing some of the wisdom for those who might benefit. 


Do you have an effective way you have used DM to connect with prospects and be in service? Please HIT reply and let me know. I’ve love to hear.


Authentic Marketing – Wanna Know? 


I’m also in the planning stages of an intensive on “relationship marketing” and how to effectively create authentic connection and utilize social media and other networks to build sales without being creepy.


Are you interested in learning deets about then when it’s launched?  


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Wishing you abundant success,



upgrade this for more $ in 2020 [surprising secrets]

Welcome to 2020!


What’s the “secret” the uber-successful know? 


By uber-successful, I mean the people who have a truly rich life…

People who:


  • have a great business and income flow in their life – it seems they create money with ease, and help improve the world too.


  • have great relationships and are well liked – people want to be around them AND they have a solid marriage/partnership.


  • are magnetic and people want to help them – they light up a room. 


The secret is – these people understand the interconnection of income and intimacy AND they have harnessed their own natural magnetism. 


If you have read the business bible classic: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, (and if you haven’t, where oh where have you been? Get your copy NOW)…


…In Chapter 11, The Mystery of Sex Transmutation, Hill states:


“Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men (and women) develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. 


So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men (and women) freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge in it. When harnessed, redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative force in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including of course, the accumulation of riches.” 


Essentially Hill is talking about the power of passion, love, desire and great connection and how it can be CHANNELED into amazing results  – unconventional results in your business, bank account, health, and life.


YOU too can channel this.


All through the month of January, we are teaching, talking and interviewing leaders in this area – the creation of amazing income and relationships – on the Sexellence Podcast.


If you have had financial instability or you are not where you want to be in your bank account, business or career…this month is for you.


Financial blocks mirror relationship / intimacy blocks. 


Once you work on clearing those blocks, you will experience more financial ease that may have eluded them you years. 


  • In today’s episode we talk to sex secrets that will help you keep those new year’s resolutions especially when it comes to income and intimacy.


  • We give you a process to take an accurate look at where you are and where you want to go. 


  • Learn our 5 Secrets to Upgrade Your Sex Life AND Financial Life!


Listen now to Sex Secrets to Launch the New Year – Why a Sex Upgrade Will Help You Make More Money in 2020