Dealing with Disappointment ~ The Fuel

Tears dropping into dust on a backroad trail, while birds, recently returned from south, sing fully.


A moment where the two ever moving waves of life – the “darkness” and “the light” wove in and out of me. 


Frustration. Sadness. Anger. But also, a cracking open or a softening down.


Allowing all the emotions. Just breathing. Listening to birds. 


The disappointment of unfulfilled plans. Lost moments. Opportunities gone. Sadness for what my global community is experiencing. 


But, also the knowing that something greater is birthing.


It’s unseen right now, but it’s in its gestation…

…if only I can be patient enough. 

…tolerant enough. 

…wise enough.


This moment is a chance to lean in to discomfort and witness it – no longer glossing it over with too much work, thinking or purchasing. 


  • For me, I see how challenged I can feel to have plans swept away. 
  • I see the way my mind loves “security”. 
  • I see how even now my mind wants to know what “I’m going to do with the rest of my life”. 


Most humans seek certainty above all else. 

“The Devil We Know” is how many of us navigate life, but we can’t right now.


At this time, the certain certainty we are accustomed to is gone. It’s frustrating, scary and annoying. 


The Unknown is challenging.


But we also have a chance to escape from our everyday experience and dive into those dark places – to examine WHAT we are just so frustrated about, angry about or scared of.  


And, it’s also a time to sing like birds sing, not caring who’s listening or what they think as Rumi said. 


  • We could find our inner hero and heroine and offer up much – to be seen, offer help, be helped and  – to stop the rabbit hole thinking of “poor me”.


  • We could accept an inner mission – to go deeper into love, Source and possibility.


  • We could strive to “master” ourselves and forge through our personal limitations.


I am using this time to do so personally and to offer the support to other who wish to do the same. May we come together and find fuel from this moment to burst into our Phoenix self.”


Much Love,



P.S. It is my honour to offer some unique opportunities to do so, and take this journey with. Me. Keep reading.


P.P.S If you have a friend, sister or brother that could use this message, share this blog post.


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Good Spirits Book Club

Social Distancing Made Fun + Inviting



This is a personal invite to get in on the Good Spirits Book Club with moi and other amazing men and woman…


During social distancing, we can still read, enrich our minds and hearts and come together in a virtual BOOK CLUB. 

We will read inspired spirituality, new thought and mind mastery books AND talk about WINE too! 

Yes, books and wine. You won’t miss going out so much…maybe…

Add your name to the booknerd list and I’ll send you a separate sweet invite…details coming April 1, 2020.

Click here if you want on the list

Gotta books suggestion? Just hit reply and let me know.

Again, get on the list for the invite and share with a friend too.

Mythic Stories – Have You Watched This?


I’m sharing 13 stories to INSPIRE you…


All from my bag of tricks in Shakti Tantra, First Nations traditions and Universal Laws.


My recent story was how to Reignite the Dream (even amongst chaos) and the teachings of Saraswati.


Check it out now

Top books, movies and podcasts to stay sane

A quick blog to help make your lockdown more easeful and share some books, movies and podcasts that I love…that you might love too.


Sending you a TON of grace, good reads, good movies and good lovin’ during this time. We will get through it…It is important to try to keep your mental health and mood as steady and high as possible. For me, I am creating a ton of content to help me, my community and my friends stay there.


If you haven’t checked out my free 13-Days of Mythological Stories from the Divine Feminine Shakti Tantra and First Nations teachings on YouTube (or my personal Facebook) WATCH NOW 


 And now for a few recommendations on how to make this time of isolation a little more bearable….


Top Three Inspiring Movies “To Create Your Own Reality”

What the Bleep Do We Know
Finding Joe
Also… Heal


My Top Three “Feel Good” Movies
Yes Man
Moonrise Kingdom
Meet the Fockers 

Top Three Novels I Read This Year
✔ The Starless Sea by Erin Morgenstern
✔ A Well Behaved Woman by Therese Anne Fowler

✔ The Bookshop of the Broken Hearted by Robert Hillman


Top 3 Books to Read on Creating Your Reality
✔ The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

✔ The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz


Top 3 Books on Sexuality
✔ She Comes First by Ian Kerner
✔ Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Top 3 Podcasts to Check Out
✔ The Successful Mind with David Neagle
✔ Invisibilia from NPR
✔ Hidden Brain– NPR
✔ My husband and I also host a podcast on relationships, intimacy and sexuality – Sexellence Podcast


What would you add to this list? COMMENT and let me know. 


Wishing you wellness of mind, body and spirit right now.

Be a Lady They Said

Have you watched the viral video from Be A Lady They Said?


I cried the first time I watched it.


I could feel all the confusion, anguish, and desire we have as women …my own rage and longing bubbling. 


the anguish of WANTING to be, do and have on my terms, and the fear that it’s inappropriate, or greedy or bitchy, or worse, that I’m not a “good girl” because I want more – more money, more success, more sex, more voice, more choice, and even more purses. 


the rage that I ever FOOLED myself into thinking I have to be skinny, smart but not too smart, seen but not too ostentatious, fuckable but not wanting to fuck, generous but not wealthy, and confident but nice and agreeable in order to be lovable.


…the desire to just KNOW who I am as a woman, and not feel I must constantly hold back, measure up or play down or agonize if I have the right shade of lipstick on today.


…the longing to TRUST myself more – my own voice, my own power, my own beauty and even my own anger.


Yet, anger alone will not create what we desire. 


Anger can be a great motivator to get off your ass, but the deeper work must take place. 


What’s the deeper work?


  • To embrace, and LOVE ourselves even our Dark Side.


  • To take responsibility for our own rage, insecurity and meanness. 


  • To connect with other women and men who want to the same.


  • To get serious and take action on our work and vision and quit allowing Mom Guilt, distraction or procrastination stop us. 


  • To risk being unliked, criticized or conversely to be radically loved and a big success. 


As such, I am dedicated to speaking, writing, creating and supporting this in any small way, and I recorded a 30-minute audio on The 5 Mistakes Even Smart Women Make as a gift…and a way to take action myself.


Click here to get the 5 Mistake Even Smart Women Make now…



Have You Been “Figuring It Out”?  I Have Been!! 


I’ve been on a journey in the last couple years in this aspect of my life and business – trying to figure out my place and how I can be of service.


I apologize if I ever seemed confusing…it’s been an “interesting” unfolding. 


NOW, I feel that it’s here, with women like you, that I can be a cheerleader, supporter, and sacred mirror – and intend to take a stronger stance for female expression and unapologetic success in this community. 


So, thank you for being here. If you are up for more ways women can rock it out in business, career and life, then stay tuned! 


If you like quippy insight, information and inspiration, my Instagram is full of it. I’d love to connect on IG at @shasta.townsend.



And, Great Sex too! 


I am also passionate about amazing relationships…so in the Sexellence Podcast community, the powerful, humour and real conversation about sex, intimacy and relationship continues. 


If you want to get in on the conversation around intimacy, great sex and better relationships, please check out my podcast co-hosted with my husband, Ian Lavalley, Sexellence.  Go to and follow us on Instagram at @sexellencepodcast



Again, thank you for being here, and for your own inner longer, voice and desire.  Be a lady, don’t be a lady – you decide! 


Much love,


Are you doing this creepy thing on FB? Marketing 101 Advice

I was creeped out! 


It was too much too soon.


The “here’s why I am so amazing and how I can help you so work with me NOW message that I’ve received not once but about 10x in the last 2 months through Facebook messenger.


If we’ve just become friends on Facebook, do not pitch me your services through direct message…not in the first 10-minutes and not in the first 10 hours.


It’s kinda creepy when I see your name pop up and I’ve just accepted your friend request. 


I don’t accept every friend request that comes my way. I do try to be discerning but if we’ve just met please don’t try to hump me.


Would you jump into bed with someone you just met in the produce aisle? 


Maybe, but if you’re asking me to hop into bed with you, unless you’re Javier Bardum, that’s not going to happen. 


I’m not saying don’t friend me.


I’m not saying don’t use Messenger to connect with people or even invite them to work with you.


I hate to sound critical since I do love a go-getter and those who ask for the sale, but there is a sophisticated way to do this. 


I’m just saying don’t be creepy. 


How to Use DMs Effectively:


  • Ensure you let “friends” warm to you. Don’t go in too fast or too hard. Don’t love bomb people (it feels inauthentic) and conversely don’t tell people you can “save” them (it’s patronizing and narcissistic).


  • Ensure you’re using it as a relationship tool. That is, invite people to have a conversation and not just hard sell. 


  • Ensure you’re talking about what’s in it for me and not just how amazing you might be.


  • Ensure you know who you’re talking to AKA do a little research. Please don’t pitch me parenting programs. I don’t have kids. Please don’t pitch me lesbian cruises. I’m in a monogamous relationship with a man and I hate boats. Please don’t pitch me life coaching when you haven’t figure out your own life.



I don’t usually write about effective marketing or sales techniques, but I’ve had so many ineffective and creepy DMs in the last 6 months I had to speak up. 


And I’ve also built 7-figure businesses through authentic relationship building and effective marketing so I hope to start sharing some of the wisdom for those who might benefit. 


Do you have an effective way you have used DM to connect with prospects and be in service? Please HIT reply and let me know. I’ve love to hear.


Authentic Marketing – Wanna Know? 


I’m also in the planning stages of an intensive on “relationship marketing” and how to effectively create authentic connection and utilize social media and other networks to build sales without being creepy.


Are you interested in learning deets about then when it’s launched?  


Click here to be added to the first-to-know list. 


Wishing you abundant success,