In nearly two-two-decades of working in the world of personal development and entrepreneurship I cannot tell you how many well-meaning husbands who genuinely love their spouses and want the best for them, have advised:
“You’re smart, you don’t need a coach. You can figure this stuff out on your own…
“You are perfect. You don’t need to do that program/training/development!..
Or my personal fav:
“I know a bit about business/have a tourism degree/lead teams, so just learn from me.”
Never ever do I recommend your spouse replace a mentor.
First, they are just too close to you, and have their “stuff” going on and in many ways want you to stay the same because it works for them. (With love, but this is TRUE).
Secondly, when we allow our spouse to make decisions for us we are COMPLETELY CUT OFF from our internal knowing and power!
Even if you’ve never heard something like this from your spouse who wants to keep you safe and “save you money,” maybe you’ve told it to yourself…
…That’s how dominated we are by “martyr” thinking, that we think our value is based on how much we can do alone!
What few people understand is that a great mentor will short cut time, struggle and actually help you MAKE money in the long run.
For the woman who wants to THRIVE, succeed faster, and make more money sooner (don’t pretend you don’t!) without blowing out your adrenals or your marriage, the SMARTEST THING you can do is allow yourself mentorship, community and support as you fulfill your purpose.
Will 2019 be your year???
It is a perfect time to take action to get the support and mentoring…and it is definitely NOT your spouse!
I mentor success focused, service-driven women who are solo-preneurs, transformational teachers, coaches, artists and heroines who wish to create more impact and income without sacrificing themselves!
P.S. I am taking a SMALL number of one-on-one clients in 2019 who wish to create amazing results, accelerate their income and make a bigger impact. Reach out to find out of that is for you at https://shastatownsend.com/apply/
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This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column comes from Cheryl in Texas.
I think I am sabotaging my success because I don’t want to seem pushy or “salesy” so I don’t always ask for the business or follow up on clients calls.
I also think my downline (I am apart of a multi-level marketing company) may have this issue too.
First off remember that any business is in business to:
1. Provide a service or product that meets a need or want of current or prospective clients, and
2. Is here to make money by providing that service or product…otherwise it is not a business. It’s a charity.
Your job then is to “sell” the service or product that HELPS your clients fill their need or want.
We are in business to provide SOLUTIONS – that is the highest offering of business and sales people in particular.
The question really is: “What does being pushy or “salesy” really mean to you?” What “story” do you have about it?
The story many women have is that is wrong to be assertive, successful and “driven”.
If a man asks for a sale he is often seen him as a go-getter or a leader, but for women we fear being seen as a bitch.
We fear rejection.
We subconsciously believe that asking for what we want or asserting our self, even if it is with highest intention, is somehow inappropriate.
So we do often sabotage our success until we begin to really peel back these unconscious stories about who and what we are allowed to be and have.
>> Your own story about what you are allowed to have as a woman.
>> Why you are truly in the business you are in – is it not to help people and create a create lifestyle for yourself in turn?
>> And, consider hiring a mentor who can help you create your model of “feminine success” with ease. Self-sabotage sucks and it is really hard to figure out on your own!
The bonus is that once you really begin to “heal” these outdated subconscious beliefs you will naturally inspire your team to shine too.
If you are truly interested in healing and overcoming unconscious beliefs about what you are allowed to have as a woman then I sincerely invite you to chat with me about the upcoming Flourishing Feminine Training.
Book your 15-minute chat with me so we can discover what is truly the best next step for you. Book now.
You can have it all…with ease!
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