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How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself {My Formula to Make Great Decisions}

“I have to sit with this.

“I have to think about it.

“I have to ask the Universe.

“I am scared so that must mean it’s not right.”

These are all responses I have heard myself and others say when faced with a decision.

And it’s all bullshit.

The thing is we are all born with an innate knowing.

We are born clear. We come forth with no shame or guilt about what we want or taking the next step to get it.

Think about it – when toddlers are learning to walk they don’t “have to sit with it” or “feel it in their body.” 

They go for it, bruised noses and all.  They have a relentless desire for more.

We all have a relentless Desire for more but we start to question it.

Later in life we start second guess everything. We take on the fears of our family, our culture, our friends and even our lovers.

We fear being judged, getting it wrong, making a mistake, ending up more broke/alone/wrong, so we “sit with it”.

Mistakes feel super painful so we avoid making one and thus decisions.

But you know what’s even more painful – REGRET!!

What if you had never taken the risk to learn to walk

Would you regret that?

YES! It sounds so ludicrous to even ask.

Nothing will change until we take the next step, and we can’t take a step by “sitting with it”.

We can take a step even with the fear.

Yes, we need to be discerning but most of us do KNOW what we want and even what the next step is for us, but we talk ourselves out of it.

One of the best things I taught myself was HOW TO MAKE A DECISION, QUICKLY.

Here’s My Formula for Making a Decision:

1.Be Clear On What You Want – So simple…but lots of people are afraid to claim what they want. So this is your permission to get clear and declare to yourself what you want!!!!!

For me, I got clear that in 2019 I wanted to be on more stages and on more media outlets so I could make a bigger impact.  Simply, my goal in 2019 is to be on 20 great stages and media platforms. It WILL happen. I’ve made the decision.

What do you want?  Define it clearly.

 

2.Pay Attention + Trust Universal Laws – One of the best things I ever did was study Universal Laws. I understand the Law of Vibration (aka Law of Attraction) – that what IS showing up in my experience – whether it is a coaching program, training, speaking gig or travel opportunity – is coming my way because of my Desire.  I am literally in harmony with it. I can feel confident because if it was NOT meant for me it would NOT be in my experience.

If I use the same example as above, I had an opportunity to study with a world re-known speaking coach and I was an immediate YES.

I knew this man was showing up in my life at the perfect time because it was what I wanted. I made the decision and investment with ease because I KNOW he is here to help me in my vision. I literally manifested him so I was COMPELLED to trust that and take the next step.

What is showing up in your experience that could help you BE, DO OR HAVE what you really want?  

3.NEVER Make Decisions Based on MoneyI used to order the cheapest thing on the menu even if I didn’t want it. ACK. Now I order what I WANT.

I have learned to NEVER make decisions based on money or price point. In fact now if something is “too cheap” I don’t buy it because I’m pretty sure it won’t help me get the results I want (and I want to work with people who value what they do). A $99 program means $99 results.   Do you want a Dollar Store kind of life? NOT ME!

Also, I hold myself accountable to create the money. So, I make a decision, Trust the Universal Laws and TAKE ACTION.  This is also known as The Law of Cause + Effect. I don’t wait for the fairies of the Universe to rain down pennies from the sky. I CREATE them!!

What are you talking yourself out of because of the money?  Ready to stop that?????

 What resource / action / opportunity for money is already here?

As we approach 2019, it is a perfect time to notice the voices of fear, to make a decision about what you REALLY want, and then to take action to get the support to create it, now.

That’s the thing about support – a great mentor can help you literally collapse time. 

If you want help in creating “magic” in your life and business, then reach out today https://shastatownsend.com/apply/

You can’t do it alone or you would have already!

And you CAN do it even with the fear.

Much love,

Shasta

P.S. I am taking a SMALL number of one-on-one clients in 2019 who wish to create amazing results, accelerate their income and make a bigger impact.

Reach out to find out of that is for you at https://shastatownsend.com/apply/

P.P.S. Check out success stories of women like you saying YES to their success and what they are creating…

I Don’t Want to Seem “Salesy” – Ask Shasta Column

This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column comes from Cheryl in Texas.

 

 

Hi Shasta,

I think I am sabotaging my success because I don’t want to seem pushy or “salesy” so I don’t always ask for the business or follow up on clients calls.

I also think my downline (I am apart of a multi-level marketing company) may have this issue too.

Help!

-Cheryl

 

 

Dear Cheryl

First off remember that any business is in business to:

1. Provide a service or product that meets a need or want of current or prospective clients, and

2. Is here to make money by providing that service or product…otherwise it is not a business. It’s a charity.

Your job then is to “sell” the service or product that HELPS your clients fill their need or want.

We are in business to provide SOLUTIONS – that is the highest offering of business and sales people in particular.

The question really is: “What does being pushy or “salesy” really mean to you?”   What “story” do you have about it?

The story many women have is that is wrong to be assertive, successful and “driven”.

If a man asks for a sale he is often seen him as a go-getter or a leader, but for women we fear being seen as a bitch.

We fear rejection.

We subconsciously believe that asking for what we want or asserting our self, even if it is with highest intention, is somehow inappropriate.

So we do often sabotage our success until we begin to really peel back these unconscious stories about who and what we are allowed to be and have.

Consider:

>> Your own story about what you are allowed to have as a woman.

>> Why you are truly in the business you are in – is it not to help people and create a create lifestyle for yourself in turn? 

>> And, consider hiring a mentor who can help you create your model of “feminine success” with ease. Self-sabotage sucks and it is really hard to figure out on your own!

The bonus is that once you really begin to “heal” these outdated subconscious beliefs you will naturally inspire your team to shine too.

If you are truly interested in healing and overcoming unconscious beliefs about what you are allowed to have as a woman then I sincerely invite you to chat with me about the upcoming Flourishing Feminine Training.

Book your 15-minute chat with me so we can discover what is truly the best next step for you.  Book now.

You can have it all…with ease!

Much love,

Shasta

The Flourishing Feminine Training – Is this for you? 

Connect with Shasta and find out if this training is a good fit for you and you for it.
It’s ONLY for women wanting EASEFUL success in the bedroom, boardroom and bank account…

 

Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

 

PS: Take Back the Reigns is a weekly no-cost program that is open to women seeking direction on love, sex and money.

Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question that supports our community. You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.

See the sidebar to ask your question today!

How can I have better sex & more money? Ask Shasta

This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column comes from Anonymous

 

 

Hi Shasta,

I have heard you say that sex and money are often tied together. I am an entrepreneur. My business is doing ok, but my marriage and sex life could be better.  I would of course like more money and better sex, so are you suggesting that if my sex life was better my income would be better? I find this hard to understand but want to!

Thank you,

Anonymous

 

 

Dear Anonymous,

I love this question!

Sex and money are probably two of the mostly highly charged topics in our culture so there is a lot misunderstanding about them both.

Throw in God/Goddess and you get the trifecta of subjects that fill humans with the most fear, shame and loathing.

As women, sex has often been used as a way to control, manipulate and literally abuse us so it can feel really sticky to consider sex as a means for our wellbeing and even wealth.

But if we look at both money and sex as an expression of desire, passion and even God/Goddess energy then of course they are both good, holy and natural.

AND…they can’t be separated…everything in your life is tied together.

We like to think we can split things into silos – my sex life goes here, my business life goes over here, my marriage over here and my money over there–  but we are one woman and if an area of our life is “ok” or even a total disappointment then that affects everything!

So, if we want to increase the wealth in our life we must look at who we are BEING in all areas of our life including in the bedroom.

And vice versa, if we wish to improve the intimacy and connection in our life then we also must look at who we are being and how much passion, prosperity, joy and connection we allow into our life.

If you are truly interested in healing and overcoming “shadow” beliefs about money and sex and what you are allowed to have as a woman then I sincerely invite you to chat with me about the upcoming Flourishing Feminine Training.

This is an exclusive opportunity to work with me in a small group intensive.

Book your 15-minute chat with me so we can discover what is truly the best next step for you.  Book now.

I want to ensure that every woman there is getting the understanding and tools she needs so it’s important that you are truly ready to dive in and create real EASE and SUCCESS.

So, this may NOT be for you if you want to keep doing things the hard way.

You can have it all…with ease!

Much love,

Shasta

The Flourishing Feminine Training – Is this for you? 

Connect with Shasta and find out if this training is a good fit for you and you for it.
It’s ONLY for women wanting EASEFUL success in the bedroom, boardroom and bank account…

 

Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

 

PS: Take Back the Reigns is a weekly no-cost program that is open to women seeking direction on love, sex and money.

Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question that supports our community. You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.

See the sidebar to ask your question today!

I’m Sensitive – How Do I Control That? – Ask Shasta Column

This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column comes from Meghan in Canada.

Hi Shasta,

People tell me I’m a sensitive person and I that take things personally. How can I control my mind and set boundaries?

Thank you,

Meghan

 Dear Meghan,

First off everyone is a sensitive person (who isn’t a psychopath…and I don’t say that to be funny.)

Humans are gifted with the ability to FEEL and that is a good thing.

So when someone calls you “sensitive” what this really means is that you can effectively translate information/energy and emotion.

You can “sense” what is being communicated and perhaps what is not being said or the deeper meaning in it.  This is a good thing.

Another really good thing is that “sensitive” people generally have a lower tolerance for inconsistency, untruth and bullshit.

We are generally called “sensitive” by people who don’t want to actually take responsibility for their own communication or energy so they blame us for calling them on their stuff.

So at one level when someone calls you “sensitive” take it as a compliment. It means you cannot be easily fooled.

The shadow side of being “sensitive” is that we often can’t let go of things – we mull it over and chew it over in our minds and often take things personally.

We often make it mean something that it may not mean.

We let things bother us too much perhaps and make it a bigger story that it needs to be.

Because of our own assumptions, subconscious beliefs and “blind spots” we assign meaning to things that may not have meaning, and even worse we HOLD onto those things as evidence to verify our internal stories of fear, lack, worry, anxiety, etc.

I am speaking from past experience here so there is not blame or shame 🙂

The answer to all of this is Mind Mastery.

Mind Mastery is the ability to literally master the thoughts coming up in our mind so that we can evaluate, digest and eventually release them or act on them.

In other words we are NOT the slaves to our mind and thoughts as women, but rather powerful evaluators and “choosers”.

It is great to FEEL but we also must master our ability to THINK. This is the essence of Mind Mastery.

Advance your own Mind Mastery with these 3 specific tools:

Meditation + Mind Training  – if you don’t already have a meditation practice I strongly suggest starting one. There is a plethora of online resources and wonderful teachers out there. I meditate EVERY DAY and it has made a huge difference in my life.

 A MentorThis is one of the FASTEST ways to cultivate a powerful mind and affirming choices. A mentor or coach/teacher can help you identify the “blind spots” of assumptions, stories and subconscious beliefs and cultivate a powerhouse mind. 

Mindfulness / Self AwarenessA mentor can help you do this at an advanced level, but the practice of literally being self aware – that is conscious of HOW and WHAT you FEEL and THINK about and WHY is one of the fastest ways to create  Mind Mastery. When you make the unconscious conscious through awareness you take back the reigns in your brain and in your life.

Try these out and allow yourself to be both sensitive and thoughtful as you own your power as a woman!

Much love,

Shasta

Powerful Mentoring Support 

Reach out and book a free a chat with me to talk about the support you are seeking and the results you want.

There is no pressure, and these are a great way to learn the next best step on your path to truly taking back the reigns in life and in love!   Book a 15-minute conversation today. 

 

The Flourishing Feminine Training 

Women wanting EASEFUL success in the bedroom, boardroom and bank account…Join ME!

Join Shasta for 3 Action Packed + Joyful Days in Cottage Country Ontario.  Get Super Early Bird Access Now!


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ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of money, men, marriage intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

 

PS: Take Back the Reigns is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone seeking direction on love, life and self-empowerment.

Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question that supports our community.

You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.

It is my deep, heartfelt intention that in answering your questions I provide support, clarity and means to inspire you to truly create a life and love of power.

See the sidebar to ask your question today!

Why Being Ignored By A Waiter Was Good for Me {Balancing Soft + Strong} – What India Confirmed

Happy International Women’s Day!

Today, is a perhaps a perfect day to share a funny story about a waiter, a woman and finding a balance of strong and soft.

I recently returned from nearly 20 days in India where I had the pleasure of hosting, along with my husband Ian, 25 people on our Sacred Joy Pilgrimage. It was amazing!!

Mother India is always a complex, challenging and beautiful land – much like life itself.

It is a land that worships the Divine Feminine in her many varied forms and yet often treats its women with old world patriarchal views…I had my own glimpse of this. 

When dining with my husband, I was completely ignored…almost every time.

Sitting atop a 5-star rooftop restaurant dressed well and hair done I was completely dismissed.

I waved at passing waiters. I asked the host to bring me a menu and requested a drink order be taken to no avail.

I was told, “I can’t help you, Madame.”

It was not until my husband returned from a smoke break that the waiter, in fact several, came to our table.

My voice, needs and presence as a woman were completely irrelevant until my husband arrived. I’m not use to this!

And even then the waiter still did not address me, but turned to my husband Ian who comically said, “She can decide for herself.”

When the bill arrived and I pulled out my credit card, the waiter returned the credit card slip it to my husband for signature even though I had handed the waiter my card.

At which point Ian said: “Dude that’s her card and by the way she makes three times more money than me.”

I could feel my frustration, exasperation and disbelief boiling…but this was not a coachable moment.

There was no point in freaking out or having a dissertation on the rights of women.

All I could do was show up in elegant Feminine Grace and continue to assert myself…without a Kali-style meltdown.

Thankfully I can take it all in stride and this is not meant to be critical of the land or people of India, but an interested snapshot of the struggle to be seen and appreciated as a woman.

Why can we worship the Goddess when She is seated on a lotus but we can’t even see Her in the women seated in front of us? 

It can be demoralizing as hello…but perhaps it is NOT the role of another to see us as the Goddess but for each of us to see HER in our self.

This was a wonderful opportunity to find my own authentic Goddess power and not be relegated to pretty furnishings while at the same time not be the emasculating raging woman.

So this International Women’s Day I celebrate the radiant Goddess in myself, in you and in our world.

Our time is now…

There is work to do in our world, but we can do it with the finesse, sexiness and confidence of the rocking Shakti superstars we truly are despite the chauvinistic waiters!

Now who wants to have a well timed and perfectly mixed gin and tonic with me?

Much Love,

Shasta

P.S. This is also a personal invite to consider upcoming Divine Feminine events and trainings with yours truly. Keep reading… By that time I had also tried Manifestation Masterkey.

My work this coming year will be diving deeper into how to live a happy, sexy, shameless life as a woman. It’s time to feel free, no matter AND be the new model in the world.

 

Divine Feminine Celebrations + Trainings

Celebrate Sisterhood! – Women’s Collective Event


Help rural and impoverished women from India improve their own lives and the lives of their families…by shopping for a cause!

Join me for a night of shopping, sisterhood and fun!

Shasta has sourced a large collection of home fashions, women’s wear and unique craft items from a rural woman’s collective in Rathambore, India.  

Women’s craft collectives are a powerful means for impoverished women to create their own source of revenue, independence and support.


Date: Thursday, April 5 from 7:30 – 9:30 pm

Location: Balanced Life Yoga, 274 Mackenzie Avenue, Ajax, ON. Canada. www.balancedlifeyoga.ca

Event is free but please pre-reserve so we can be sure to have a seat for you!


Learn more now!

 

The Flourishing Feminine

A transformational training with best-selling author and income + intimacy expert, Shasta Townsend
Women wanting EASEFUL success in the bedroom, boardroom and bank account…Join ME!

Join Shasta for 3 Action Packed + Joyful Days in Cottage Country Ontario.  Get Super Early Bird Access Now!


Learn more now!

 

Crushing on the Divine Feminine

Dripping with Divine Feminine goodness.  Check out recent Sacred Joy pics and the real-life Goddesses joined me in India.

For even more photos and videos of our wild and wonderful India journey check out my Instagram page – @shastaherself

 

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of money, men, marriage intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com