the toxic Masculine in love {self-evaluation included}

“I can’t f&cking win!”

Have you ever caught yourself saying these words?

I sure have!

As a man who grew up “hardened” away from emotional sharing, I found it easier to get angry and identify with the Imbalanced Masculine side (self-evaluation graphic below).

It was an excuse to not be open or fully commit to my partner and be in an honest, co-creative relationship.

The Toxic Masculine would show up in me as:

  • Losing my cool and saying things I didn’t mean.
  • Not talking for days and literally “stone-walling” Shasta and others.
  • Feeling alone and like the whole world was on my shoulders.
  • Holding onto things from long ago – things that were said in the past and yet, I still “nursed” those old wounds.

Do any of these sound familiar?

The Imbalanced or Toxic Masculine in Love.

I learned and am still learning to break through these and take deep responsibility for myself as a man, a husband and a creator in the world.

My past is not something that I am proud of but it’s no longer something I am willing to shame myself about either.

It has helped me get to where I am today, and be in the relationship I am in with Shasta, and doing this work in the world now for men and women.

I use those experiences to be a more compassionate and loving husband, friend and leader.

Though our partner, employees/colleagues or family can challenge us in relationship, we must take the responsibility to look at the wounded places within us and stop the cycle of blame and victimization.

Last week Shasta shared her experience and the self-assessment for the Toxic or Imbalanced Feminine in Love. To read that again check it out now.

Again, these patterns can show up in women or men though men tend to display more of the Toxic Masculine and women more of the Toxic Feminine because of cultural conditioning.

Take a moment and honestly reflect if any of these patterns are within…no shame or guilt.

Man or Woman – Break Through the Toxic Patterns
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toxic feminine in love (man or woman)…is this you?

Whether you are a man or woman…understanding the Imbalanced or Toxic Feminine (and Masculine) is essential on our path of self-empowerment and loving relationship with yourself and others, and especially your lover.

The Toxic or Imbalanced Feminine is extremely prevalent in our culture right now.

Though the Imbalanced Feminine is often ascribed to women, men can have these patterns too.

I created a brief overview on how this imbalance can show up in Love / relationships…

Take a moment and honestly reflect if any of these patterns are within…no shame or guilt.

The first step in any healing or transmutation is our willingness to actually look at this “imbalance” within us.

As a self-proclaimed “independent” woman, Love and intimacy has been one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences of my life.

It has required me to look at the imbalances or toxic patterns I have around men, sex and relationship including:

  • The ways I armour myself.
  • I don’t ask for what I want or need.
  • I just “do it myself” and then feel resentful.
  • And even latent anger I hold against the Masculine. “Don’t fucking talk to me that way!”

It is not a pretty side of myself, and yet it is also a beautiful opportunity to transmute this into something powerful, and no longer be the victim of past abuses, neglect or fear.

What are your aha’s or thoughts??

Healing the Imbalanced Feminine – Invitation + Opportunity

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Book a confidential call at https://go.oncehub.com/ShastaTownsend

✈️Paid to travel! {How we do it}✈️

If travel is one of your passions but it’s feeling a little stifled lately, then we wrote this just for you!!

As an entrepreneur or business leader, jet-setting lifestyle may not be do-able, but you can get PAID TO TRAVEL…

Travel is one of our passions. If you’ve been following us on Instagram you know we have been in the Costa Brava just north of Barcelona these past two weeks.

And we kind of get paid to do it…

No, we aren’t the children of heiresses or oil tycoons. In fact, we are the children of parents who never traveled and saved every dime.

We created a “formula” for travelling and “getting paid” – that ensures our businesses are secure and making money while we are away.

You can do it too.

Follow our acronym “SASS” to enjoy more freedom and financial success and live your travel passion.

S = Shared Vision. This is about getting on the same page as your spouse even if your spouse does NOT share your travel bug.  You will need their support so you need to actually share what you desire.

Well, first it’s actually about owning your desire for travel and live well. If this is what you really want, then OWN IT.

I use to feel a ton of guilt about my “irresponsible” need for wander, but then I thought about all things in my life I regretted and 99% of them were things I had NOT DONE.

Secondly, know your Big WHY.

As business leaders we are so busy building and running the business that we forget about our BIG WHY. Your BIG WHY is why the heck you are doing any of this anyway.

Part of my big why is being in service and making a difference, but it is also to live a life of FREEDOM. I left my corporate career for all three, but a few years ago I was feeling like a slave to the business, and that meant burn out and resentment. That’s not good for me, my marriage or the business.  I was not taking time off and my gypsy soul felt trapped.

I talked to Ian about this, who also has a wanderer’s soul and we made the decision to ensure we could slake our wanderlust at least 4-6 weeks each year.

Few couples have a Shared Vision or a BIG WHY so life, marriage and business can become humdrum and hollow, or worse overwhelming and soul sucking.

It’s important to talk to your partner about the Shared Vision, and “own” what you really want too!

What do you really want? What do you each want? What do you want to create, experience and share together?

A = Agreements.  Agreements are clearly spelled out commitments that everyone knows about and is in “agreement” on. 

You need agreements in your relationship and business everyday but especially while travelling. These ensure you are all on the same page and they help build trust and ease.

We are huge advocates of agreements!

Ian and I have agreements at home and “on the road”.  We are clear how much time we work, explore, relax and experience while travelling. This helps us maintain balance and clarity. It also helps us support each other.

Some days I have a writing deadline and can’t go on the wine tour until the evening, or he has a sales call in the evening so we need to push a dinner reservation. We are clear on what we need to complete and agree to support each other, while not getting overwhelmed with work too.

We also have agreements with our team. Our team is clear on what the agreements are in terms of deadlines, projects, reporting and even when and how to communicate with us. They know when to send an email, when to send a text, and when to just wait until we are home. The connectivity of the modern world can be an amazing blessing, but also a major distraction and intrusion so having clear agreements on when and how your team (and clients) communicate is key.

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S = Staff.  Staff, sensational staff, are essential if you wish to have freedom in your life – at home and on the road.

Staff can mean business bliss or business hell, as well as life hell. They affect your bottom line, your cardiograms and your sex life! Consider how much time you worry about staff!

For many business leaders, employees can feel like a big-ass head ache so they limit their business and personal growth to avoid dealing with staff.

We have an associate who refuses to grow his business because he believes it will be a pain in the ass to have more staff. He refuses contracts, and thus money because he can’t fill orders. Hiring literally one more person could mean amazing wealth for him and for them.

Consider also how much you are “doing yourself” that really could be delegated to someone who might do an even better job!

Many a marriage and business has been saved by creating the stellar dream team, and learning how to totally trust, empower and build them up. Staff is one of the areas that we help our private clients create the biggest gains.

I could write forever about the power of team and staff. We have been blessed with amazing people over the last two decades, but it is not an accident.  We chose them and empowered them. We supported them and required support in turn.

Great talent is also one of the most essential aspects of business. Whether you have 1 employee or 1000, staff can make or break your life outside of the business, and in it too!

If you want to have a first-class jet-setting lifestyle, then you need to a first-class team!

S = Support. Support is what you need in place to travel and ensure all things keep on ticking in all areas of life so you can FEEL free. This is different than staff.

For example, we live in Canada and we get buckets of snow. We have a cat. We have a rural property. We have monthly tax filing requirements. So, we have a snow plow guy, a cat sitter, a housekeeper and a book keeper. All of them are clear on their roles and responsibilities. We know that our personal life, businesses and home continue to run in our absence. Phew.

GET SUPPORT!!  I can’t stress this enough.

We also have the right technology, business programs and communication platforms that support us.

Cash is always flowing into our businesses even if we are not physically at home.  This way we continue to “get paid to travel”.

We have set up our life and our business so we CAN pretty much take off on any adventure whether it is an adventure in learning as we invest heavily in self-development and business growth each year which often means we travel to do so.

Or if it means taking a last-minute adventure to enjoy food, wine, friends and culture around the world. Our recent trip to Spain was a decision made on New Year’s Eve and 6-weeks later we were in the air. It was not really planned at all, but was a spontaneous YES.

Because what is the point in being an entrepreneur if you can ENJOY this life too!!!

You can be the jet-setting king or queen you dream of…with the right support, systems and staff.

Much love and bon voyage!

Shasta + Ian

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Spoiler Alert! {What most biz people do wrong}

Imagine waking up next to the love of your life and being ecstatic to share the morning with them.

Just picture yourself coming home to a loving embrace where you’re safe, at peace, and ready to connect with your partner like never before.

Think how it would feel to have such a meaningful connection with the love of your life that no challenge or obstacle in business is daunting.

What would it do for your confidence to have the kind of passion that wakes your neighbours and fogs your windows?

That is what so many entrepreneurs crave: a relationship that refuels their desire and drive to be successful in EVERY area of life.

This could be your future. You could be in a relationship so rich and passionate where you’re supported and empowered to create BIG things in the world.

There’s a good chance your relationship isn’t where you want it to be right now. Maybe you’re facing disaster as your relationship or even marriage is heading towards disaster.

Or maybe it is “good” but it could be great.

The dream you read above doesn’t have to be a dream, and we would love to show you how.

You’re invited to dive into The Rich Relationship Breakthrough as we call it.

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We’ve poured our lives into hundreds of power couples who are starving for a deeper connection with each other.

Our clients have followed our advice and achieved tremendous growth in their relationship and income.

We’ve seen clients go from the brink of divorce to a closer, mutually empowered relationship that ignites their income to double or even triple or more in a matter of months.

Clients like:

Creating a great relationship is not Mt. Everest. 

“I can’t believe that in only three months things are so different. We are connected. We’re having fun together. We’re talking about things with ease that we use to argue about and we are even planning our future including a potential business together! I am so glad I did not give up. I am so glad I overcame my resistance, trusted you and did this!”

From Divorce to Deep Love, Again

 

“A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It is hard to believe all the changes that have happened in just a few weeks of working with Shasta. I am so glad I did this.

 

I did not know my partner felt the same way, but Shasta taught me how to actually listen and be heard. Now, we both have the tools we need to be successful together. It feels amazing. I am so glad I did not give up.”

 

Way More Than Expected. 

“I gained insight and growth that I wasn’t expecting. Amazing opportunities are popping up in all areas of my life thanks to all I learned with Shasta. I realize the importance of connecting to myself and my partner in order to create the life I want. I let go of needing to fit a certain “role” which totally freed me. Thank you Shasta.” 

 

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It’s Shasta!

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But, how’s your relationship?  Is it an*uh-oh*??

If you’re like a lot of entrepreneurs, you’re seeing amazing success in every area of your life…except in your relationship. 

The neglect of non-money things can be the #1 mistake business leaders make!

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The Rich Relationship Breakthrough Live, is intentionally set away from your homebase so you can getaway, learn and recharge your outlook on life.

We’ve helped hundreds of power couples rejuvenate their connection into a rock-solid, neighbours-blushing relationship. We would love to do the same for you!

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Creating a great relationship is not Mt. Everest. 

“I can’t believe that in only three months things are so different. We are connected. We’re having fun together. We’re talking about things with ease that we use to argue about and we are even planning our future including a potential business together! I am so glad I did not give up. I am so glad I overcame my resistance, trusted you and did this!”

From Divorce to Deep Love, Again
“A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It is hard to believe all the changes that have happened in just a few weeks of working with Shasta. I am so glad I did this.
I did not know my partner felt the same way, but Shasta taught me how to actually listen and be heard. Now, we both have the tools we need to be successful together. It feels amazing. I am so glad I did not give up.”